The "terrible twos"
Published on 14 June 2010
Although it is called the ?terrible twos? ? this usually starts from the time when your toddler is about 18 months old. It happens because he is trying to exert his independence but doesn?t have the language skills to easily express his needs. This can cause your toddler to get frustrated and he resorts to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
By learning more about this normal stage in your child's development, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren't contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Try to keep a sense of humour. Pretend you did not hear him when he says ?NO!? for the umpteenth time. Try to take his assertiveness positively and find ways to praise his independence.
Other ways of helping yourself and your toddler make it through the ?terrible twos?
- Set a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime and play-time every day.
- Offer limited choices like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not 'what do you want for your snack?' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has control of his own.
- Set limits although he will test those limits to see if he can get away ith them.
- Don't give in to tantrums ? ignore them or if you can safely do so, walk away from him.
- Begin to discipline by using time-out and taking away privileges.
- Provide your toddler with a safe environment to explore and play in. It really isn't fair that your toddler should get in trouble for playing with something he isn't supposed to if you left it within reach.